Managing Holiday Stress
The holidays are when family and friends gather to celebrate and spend time with one another. Whether you’re hosting or simply attending a gathering, a great deal of stress can come from planning, expectations, and being around people you usually don’t spend that much time with. Here are some tips for making it through the season with minimal stress or conflict.
Set Boundaries
In surviving the holidays it’s important to set boundaries, not only for others but ourselves as well. It can be difficult saying no to commitments, especially during the holidays. There can be increased pressure to show up to a friend or family member’s event. This pressure can cause us to overcommit to plans. We may extend ourselves thinking we will be able to make it to a work party at 4 pm, dinner with family at 7 pm, and drinks with friends afterward. Although it can be doable, having multiple commitments on the same day or week also can be tiresome and costly. Have an honest conversation with yourself about what events are important to you, what your budget is, and what your social meter is like to plan accordingly.
As well-meaning as family can be, there are going to be times they get on your nerves. The holidays are no exception. Being that every family dynamic is different, boundary setting can come in many forms. For some, it can be directly saying that you don’t wish to engage in that conversation and would appreciate moving on from the topic. Boundary setting can also look like politely dismissing the comment and removing yourself physically from the room. Regardless of the dynamic, it’s important to mentally prepare for topics that may cause a reaction and how you can effectively deal with them.
2. Be Flexible
During the holiday seasons, there may be more expectations of events going as planned. As much as we can make the most elaborate to-do list or schedule for our day, party, or dinner it won’t be perfect. Something will be forgotten, a situation may arise, or the event won’t match the picture we made in our heads. Although it’s easier said than done, whatever the case may be try not to let it ruin your day! Whether the situation gets resolved or just becomes a bonding moment between those involved, holidays at their core are just to be around loved ones. You’re not going to get penalized for running to the store to get a last-minute cake or for forgetting something that people might’ve not realized was missing.
3. Self Care
Self-care can sometimes be forgotten, especially during holidays when giving to others is emphasized. There is a saying that you can’t pour from an empty cup, although it may be cliche it’s true. You can’t be fully present for your loved ones if you’re not attending to your own needs. It’s okay to set extra time aside and give back to yourself during the holidays, you deserve it. Treat yourself to a lazy day-in or whatever you’ve been debating buying for yourself.
Finding ways to practice self-care during events can help you make it through a weekend full of family. Taking a walk to clear your head or have alone time can minimize any tension or stress you’re feeling and ultimately help keep positive vibes for yourself and the environment. Remember, it’s okay to leave places early or not go at all if you’re not in a place to enjoy it. Do what makes you happy and feel comfortable.
Have you tried these things and feel like something more is playing a part in your holiday stress? A comprehensive neuropsychological evaluation can be a great jumping off point to figure out what’s going on!