What Can I Do If My Child Thinks They Are Neurodivergent?
No two people are the same. Every individual person is unique in their way of thinking, behaving, interests, and how they experience life. This may seem obvious but it is important to keep in mind, especially when thinking of the brain. Neurodivergence refers to the differences in how the brain is developed and currently functioning from what is considered to be typical. This does not mean that one way of being is better than the other, it simply means the brain is functioning differently.
Neurodivergent individuals may need changes to their environment that allow them to succeed. For example, a neurodivergent child may find it difficult to pay attention and do homework in loud environments. Creating a designated “quiet time” could make it easier for the child to complete their homework and stay on task. Small changes can go a long way and save the child from stress or frustration.
Have an honest conversation
It’s great that they feel comfortable bringing up that they think they are neurodivergent to you in the first place! It’s important to create a non judgemental environment for your child, they may already be feeling overwhelmed. Everyone is different in one way or another and that is not a bad thing, remind them of that!
It’s okay to ask questions. Here are some general questions that can help in the conversation:
What are their experiences like?
What brought them to think they may be neurodivergent?
How or where did they hear about neurodivergence?
What have they been feeling?
How long have they felt or thought this?
Do they feel like this all the time or just sometimes?
If sometimes: Where do they feel this way?
Are they having difficulties throughout the day?
What are these difficulties?
You know your child best, ask as many or as little questions as they are comfortable answering. They don’t have to be asked all at once but it is important to try to understand what they are going through and why they think they might be neurodivergent.
Offer your support
Sometimes children need to hear their parents say they are here for them. Although it is implied, the extra reassurance can go a long way. Ask your child how you can best support them. We often learn from our mistakes. It’s easier to find out what does not work once we have tried it than guessing what will work. Encourage your child to give you suggestions in the moment of what isn’t working for them and brainstorm together ways to better meet their needs.
Neuropsychological Testing
Although people with neurodivergent features may need help in school or work, neurodivergence itself is not a medical diagnosis. Neurodiversity commonly refers to people with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, and other learning disabilities. To be sure of a neurological condition, testing is necessary. Testing may feel intimidating or even scary but it’s important to go in with a positive attitude. You are one step closer to understanding your child and they are one step closer to getting the help they need and deserve.
By: Arusy Lemus
If this is a concern for you or your child and would like more information, you can schedule a free 15-minute consultation with one of our doctors to discuss the benefits of testing and determine your needs.